The Ways of Creating a Choice

ARTICLE 21:
“CHOICE-2″ — The Ways of Creating a Choice

(December 2011)

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CHOICE. This word for me is so important, as what I already told in Article-7, (CHOICE-1) and I described this as “the power to pick what you want, what makes you happy, what is the best and what is right.”  (That definition for me is so powerful that it can change your life spectacularly. Usually, the choice is commonly discussed and said in relationship’s topic. In business and social sciences, it’s more described as decision.)

In every particular situation in life, you will be given options, and it’s up to you to decide. You might remember your own dilemmas in life and the moments you decide in situations that required a lot of planning and consideration. I cannot guess how do you decide in a certain problem but I can guess some of the purpose or why did you choose a certain option. Let’s now start to look at so called “TOP 4 WHY” of every decision.

First of all, we can say that every one of us like to live a happy and fulfilling life. So, one of the most considered purpose or reason why people pick a certain option is: (1) the option makes them happy. Every one of us will be considered to have an “id”, that in Psychology, they explained it as part of a person that urges him to seek gratification, happiness and pleasure in life. We can say that in just simple observation, you can anticipate that a person will pick option where he’ll become happy and satisfied. This line observed that idea: “No one is in control of your happiness but you; therefore, you have the power to change anything about yourself or your life that you want to change.” [SHARED/POSTED by JULY KLYSTRON SANTILLAN] However, you will discover in life that you cannot always decide and pick the option where you will become happy.

The second most popular reason why people pick a certain option is: (2) they want that option. Maybe they want something or some benefits and results from that option. It is more than being happy, but more on something they will get that might give them not just happiness, but fulfilment. We can guess it as power, fame, wealth and so forth. But again, you will discover that you cannot always decide and pick this option in life.

The third most popular reason in picking an option in life: (3) the option is the best and gives the best results in life. You might consider it as the best reason too in picking a decision right now. This reason is actually the usual answer too of high-profile personalities if they will be ask how they decide in the difficult situation in their life. But be careful, because not all the best options will lead you to the right way.

The fourth reason why people pick the option is this: (4) the option is a right thing. I believe that this reason is the powerful reason. You cannot easily questioned his or her reason because it’s usually internal and conscience based (**conscience depend on the person’s view of point of what is right and wrong, might be based from a certain religion or not). So far, from what I read and observed to other people and also from my experiences, this option can give many benefits, not just from external but also from internal well-being.

As we have said, the best option cannot be considered best in life, especially if it is not right thing to do. And you can try to observe this principle in everyday life. I tried the 4 reasons already in different decision I’ve done so far, and the most fulfilling is the fourth reason even though there are circumstances that I want also the other options. I suggest that you can try to observe the effect of these reasons in your decision-making or ask the other persons on what they feel after choosing a certain option.

From the reasons I have observed, there are times of confusion. Like for example, the fourth reason, which is picking the option because it is the right thing to do. Assess yourself first if you agree that it is the right thing to do because there are people who are becoming morally blind in decision making. Usually, the reason was that they are so obsessed in what they want; they will even say or consider that the right thing is also bad or evil just to obtain what they want.

As possible, if the fourth reason is included in a certain options, you can consider it as the possible best option. You can see some options in life that makes you happy, give you what you want and it gives you the best results, but unfortunately, it’s not a right thing to be done. And we were informed that after sometimes, if we decided to pick some right things to do, it’ll make us sad and lose something. But everyone of us should not worry about what happened or what we’ve lose, because living in the wrong way, could make you regret especially if your conscience realize that you picked a wrong way. You’ll say that it’s better to live in life in the right way where you don’t need to worry in anything you’ve done before.

Picking the right option as possible gives you peace and free from any guilt in what you’ve done and also, higher chance to be free from any dispute or enemy. So be wise in every important decision-making you’ll have, because it could make a turning point in your life. Later on, we’ll learn more on how to decide carefully and wisely.

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“Everything in your life is a reflection of a choice you have made. If you want a different result, make a different choice.” [POSTED/SHARED by MARK JANIEL DE LEON]

—Created/Shared by John Kevin Cestona  with July Klystron Santillan and LIFE ORG Panel

(POSTED: December 5, 2012)